I'm not here to tell you you have to date a Trans person, I'm not here to tell you you have to find non-binary people attractive, I'm not even here to detail the many terrors and trials these people have suffered through. I'm simply here to pose some questions.
As I go through the world, I find the best questions to ask are:
"Is this my business?"
"If yes, does it effect me?"
"If yes, what should I do about it?"
And what I've found, pretty consistently, is that people identifying as a woman despite being born male, or that people identifying as genderless, really means very little. It isn't my business what they identify as, and it certainly doesn't effect me in any way. Hell, I've dated someone who is genderless and uses they/them pronouns, and it wasn't that hard. I liked them, and they liked me, and it turns out slightly modifying your vocabulary to accomodate another human being that you care about isn't that hard. At the end of the day, if someone pays their taxes, takes care of their own business, and does their best to help other people, everything else doesn't matter all that much. I just genuinely don't get why this is such a big issue for people who think logically.
I get why bigotry happens, people wanna feel better than other people, and I get that people are afraid of this issue of gender because they don't understand it, but even outside of that people act as if this matters. When the bills allowing trans people to use the bathroom they identified with came out, people acted as if this was gonna create a surge in sex crimes. As if the type of people committing sex crimes were letting little things like gender signs on bathrooms stop them, or as if someone would endure months of internal pain and external ridicule in their attempt to be who they truly believed they were, just so they could pee next to someone of a different sex than them. It simply doesn't hold up to logic.
So why do we care, as logical people. Some may ask "well what if my son turns out to be trans?" Well then you keep loving them because that's the right thing to do, why would you even for a second consider not loving them for something so stupid. I'd not love my child if they didn't like Star Wars, but what they identify as really doesn't matter or concern me. Others may pretend that allowing people to identify with what they want will lead to some sort of moral societal decay, and if by decay they mean more people being happy then yes, yes it will (we act like society is getting worse even though as time goes on great stuff like getting rid of slavery and letting women drive happens).
It simply doesn't hold up to scrutiny. You wouldn't try to persecute someone just because they liked Jason Derulo's music, even though you should because those people have terrible taste. So why is this form of identity, one that isn't tied to terrible musical choices, and effects very few people, something we need to talk about?